Be Single But Don't Let Single Lead You Into The Wrong Person's Arms

I used to have this guy that I would call late when I was bored, or maybe after a few drinks, or maybe when I was just lacking some attention.

Nonetheless, we had this back and forth thing where we both did that...

We all have or have had someone like that, right?

Maybe an ex or someone who was always just there for you but you never really pursued a relationship.

That's kind of how I was with this guy, we never dated but we had many drunken nights together, danced at the local bar everyone goes to, went to lunch together and hung out many of nights with our friends.

But we never had that title, you know, "boyfriend/girlfriend."

We would each go on to see other people and each time it ended there we were, calling and texting each other again.

So, for the longest time I couldn't figure out why we never really got "together."

Now that I've gotten a few years under my belt, I'm not as naive as I once was and I don't allow the bullshit that I used to, it kind of all makes sense.

He was too busy doing his "single" guy thing and hey, I can't blame him.
He wasn't ready to be exclusive, and that's okay, that just means we weren't meant to be.

But now, where I am at, I enjoy doing my own thing.

I'm single and enjoying every bit of it.

Very few people are single and happy.

We tend to get them confused with single and lonely.

Don't get me wrong.

I've been there.

But all single and lonely does is lead you in the arms of someone/somewhere you don't belong.

Sometimes I think a guy will see me as single and think, there's a good one to hook up with.

Nope.

Not happening.

Or what's even better when I was talking to a guy and things didn't work out with him and here comes his friend.

And let me tell you, I'm not lonely enough to sleep with you.

But no seriously I have a rule, I don't date or "hook up" with someones friends.

So if I already dated your friend, you're off limits to me.

I've never broken that rule and 28 years later, I am not about to start.

Because just like girls like to talk, guys do too and guess who doesn't want to be the center of the conversation... ME!

The thing is that things didn't work out with that person so stop going back.

You're not giving room for something great to come along.

You could have the perfect thing standing right in front of you but because you keep "going back" you're not letting what could be, be something great!

Some people are meant to come into your life but that doesn't mean they're meant to stay.

So here's the thing...

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!

And by knowing what you want, I mean you really gotta know.

I'm not talking about if your friends will approve, or what your parents will think.

I'm talking about waiting until that person comes along that gives you butterflies.

The one that calls you on your shit.

The one that laughs uncontrollably until all hours of the morning.

The one that loves you and your family.

Don't just settle for the one that is there, conveniently.... that's boring.

Wait until the one that scares you comes along.

All those feelings that you get when you're with them, when you see them, when you think about them, when their picture pops up on your timeline.... that's the one.

DON'T SETTLE.


So don't let being single lead you into the arms of the wrong one.

Be single.

Embrace that shit.

And everything will work itself out.






Until next time.

She Turned Her Can'ts Into Cans

Part of being a writer is stepping out of your comfort zone.

Sometimes it's being completely vulnerable.

Sometimes it's doing something you never thought you would do.

While all I can think about is my book and how getting it done in 2017 is (not my only) but my MAIN goal, I knew I needed to do something different.

Something still me, but different.

I always talk about moving to Austin one day.

Where I grew up and where I live today it's very conservative, while Austin is wayyyy more liberal

That's not what I see when I think about Austin.

I see a variety of places to eat.

Places to go have a drink and there's live music.

Here you have to pick certain nights and maybe you'll get lucky.

BUT, for some reason I can never make that move.

To be honest, right now in my life I have NOTHING and I mean NOTHING holding me back from getting up and moving to a totally different city.

I have a little family here and of course amazing friends but they'll support me in anything that I do.

For some reason, that easy access to a dirt road keeps me here.

While living in BCS can be "city" for most college kids who come here from out of town, this place was 'Country When Country Wasn't Cool.'

The first people I met from this town 17 years ago were from Kurten, TX and drove 90's Chevy half tons with mud grip tires on them.

Hell, some of the people I still hang out with have those same trucks.

So to me this place is far from city life.

There's plenty of back roads that'll bring you back to life after having one of those not so good very bad days.

Just turn on some old country song and I can guarantee you after some beers, and getting into your feelings... everything in life will make sense and you'll be back to normal.

ANYWAY, after getting off track like some writers tend to do(myself), I decided I needed to do something different.

I wanted to find a different image of myself.

Take the girl out of the country....

So I contacted (one) my sister's best friends who has also become one of my good friends as well and got these pictures done.

They're more than I could have imagined.

I feel like I could really see myself and my dreams standing next to these graffiti walls which carry other people's dreams as well.

My blogging has gotten a lot of people talking.

I speak my mind and write about it.

It's a damn good feeling when people tell me "keep doing what you're doing" and that they love my writing.

Some can be something that directly reflects me or some comes from people I know and change it into my own words.

With that being said..... as you all know I have been writing my book as well as working on my writing by blogging as well.

I've been offered to blog for some people which I have done in the past and gotten small rewards out of it but now I have been offered money for my blogs in which I am writing.

I am super excited to continue this journey I am on.

I need you guys for more ideas and topics.

I mean trust me, I have a lot to talk about, but I can listen to your ideas to. :)

Thanks for all the support from my readers and followers....

Until next time....

(P.S.).... I may or may not be dropping a sneak peak from the book. Unedited and raw but still sooo worth it. 

Are You That Girl??

Have you ever looked at a girls picture on Facebook and seen the amount of likes she has??

Do you ever notice when it's only guys who happen to like her stuff?

Soooo, fellas, what does it mean when you like every photo the girl puts up?

Is this the new way of hitting on the girl?

Or is this just a game?

"It's just like going to the bar, if you talk to 52 of them you're likely to get one of them but if you talk to one you ain't getting shit." (Credits go to secret source.)

"You don't go on tender and swipe once... you swipe multiple times so your numbers go up." (Credits go to secret source)

Do you have that one you're saying you're talking to but you have that one on social media you can't stop liking everything she posts??

Are you interested or is this the new way of hitting on her??

I can remember when I first liked a guy I just had my house phone, but now the game has changed.

So kind of confused here...what signal are you sending??

So you like me and you're just not telling me?

You men want to play more complicated games than "women" do?

And you say say we are the ones who play games.

When will enough be enough?

We aren't that girl.... let's just be honest together.

But if you're that girl we aren't mad you... just the guys showing attention to you.

You can't help it you're that girl.

Men will be men.

The game hasn't changed... social media has... so realize where your basis for self worth are coming from .. has to come from inside not a outside source.

Until next time.

L