Let Him Go And Move On

"One of the most courageous decisions you'll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul." -Bridgitt Nicole





Letting go is hard.

Moving on is tricky. 

Sometimes we are forced to let go of friends, a loved one, and sometimes even family. 

So easy, right? 

We’ve all been through it at some point.

But when we have to let go do we really move on?

Some of us, yes. Some, no. 

You might go out with some friends. 

Or go on a random road trip to somewhere you have never been.

The hardest thing I've ever had to go of was what could have been.

You see, I never saw myself falling in love with him.

I never once thought I'd had feelings like I did.

It just happened.

But the day came that I realized he may have been what I wanted, but he sure as hell wasn't what I needed.

He showed me that.

If I had needed him, he wouldn't have left my side.

If I had needed him, God would've never let him leave me.

No, I just wanted him.

And with that, brought thinking that I needed him.

There were signs from the very first day.

Red flags if you will.

But I ignored them.

Like I always do.

It was easy and fun.

He made me smile.

He made me forget what it was like to hurt like I had before.

But not much longer came the sadness.

The trust issues.

The small but very apparent lies.

The reasons I should just run away.

Yet, I didn't.

I stayed.

Giving him all of the power to hurt me.

Letting him think he could get away with it.

Letting him get comfortable enough to find something better and leave me high and dry.

I kept asking myself, what is wrong with me.

What did I do?

What could I have done better?

But then I told myself, it isn’t you sister. 

It’s him. 

He never wanted you in the first place.

It was a game to him.

The thrill of accomplishing yet another woman he thought he couldn't have.

But then I realized...

Why in the hell, would would you want anyone, who doesn’t want you back.

Until next time.

How To Love The Independent Woman

You ever lay your eyes on a gorgeous woman and think to yourself, I gotta know her? 

And then you speak to her and you’re even more intrigued. Like holy crap, this girls got it going on.  

Now, I know what you’re thinking, no one ever has it all figured out. 

But for a woman who is independent, and knows pretty much where she’s headed in life, she seems to have it all figured out. 

And while most people find that that’s something they want or are interested in, in reality, it is not that easy loving an independent woman. 

You see, she became independent for a reason. 

Maybe it was a bad heartbreak she suffered through. 

Maybe she lost everything she ever had. 

Regardless of what it was, something made her become independent. 

And that’s the thing about an independent woman, they’re so hard to love sometimes. 

But if you’re willing to take the time to get past those walls she’s built, I can promise you, it’ll so be worth it. 

You see, the independent woman doesn’t need you. 

Or so it’ll appear that way. 

She will want you. 

If she chose you, believe me, consider yourself special because she doesn’t just choose anyone. 

But she doesn’t need anyone. 

She knows what life is like all alone. 

Her walls are up. 

Her guard is even stronger. 

Her emotions are wild. 

But her love, it runs so deep. 

She’s seen pain like no one else has seen it. 

She’s felt lonelier than anyone ever has. 

But she did it because she knew, pain was something she didn’t want to feel forever. 

She knew moving on with life was where she belonged. 

She knew that at the right time, in the right place, someone special would come along. 

And by now you’re thinking, damn, this is a lot of work to put in. 

And that’s okay too. 

If you think that, then she’s not for you. 

But if you’re not thinking that... boy do you have a surprise in store for you. 

Take the time, break down her wall. 

Talk to her guard, soften it up. 

Because believe me, when she shows you she wants and needs you, the love you will receive will be unmatched to any you’ve ever seen. 

So by now you’re asking yourself, how do I love the independent woman....

You saddle the hell up. That’s what you do. 

You put your spurs on and hold on for the wild ride. 

Because it won’t be easy. 

She will question you. Remember she’s been hurt. 

She will try to walk away. Go after her. 

She will act like she’s not phased by you. She truly is. 

But then, she will talk to you about what hurt her. 

LISTEN! 

She might even cry. 

WIPE HER TEARS!

But then, when you least expect it, she will start to trust. 

She will be so soft. 

She will even be gentle. 

She will snuggle into your side and let out that big “I’m home” type of sigh. 

She will laugh with you. 

She will talk to you for hours. 

She will be so comfortable around you, it’ll feel like you’ve known her forever. 

And then, now and only here on out, she will include you in her future. 

All those plans she’s made, you’ve become apart of them. 

All those goals she’s written down, you’re in them. 

You are apart of her. 

Now listen when I say this last thing....

Don’t fuck it up. 

Until next time...