Showing posts with label new beginnings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label new beginnings. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 14, 2018

How To Love The Independent Woman

You ever lay your eyes on a gorgeous woman and think to yourself, I gotta know her? 

And then you speak to her and you’re even more intrigued. Like holy crap, this girls got it going on.  

Now, I know what you’re thinking, no one ever has it all figured out. 

But for a woman who is independent, and knows pretty much where she’s headed in life, she seems to have it all figured out. 

And while most people find that that’s something they want or are interested in, in reality, it is not that easy loving an independent woman. 

You see, she became independent for a reason. 

Maybe it was a bad heartbreak she suffered through. 

Maybe she lost everything she ever had. 

Regardless of what it was, something made her become independent. 

And that’s the thing about an independent woman, they’re so hard to love sometimes. 

But if you’re willing to take the time to get past those walls she’s built, I can promise you, it’ll so be worth it. 

You see, the independent woman doesn’t need you. 

Or so it’ll appear that way. 

She will want you. 

If she chose you, believe me, consider yourself special because she doesn’t just choose anyone. 

But she doesn’t need anyone. 

She knows what life is like all alone. 

Her walls are up. 

Her guard is even stronger. 

Her emotions are wild. 

But her love, it runs so deep. 

She’s seen pain like no one else has seen it. 

She’s felt lonelier than anyone ever has. 

But she did it because she knew, pain was something she didn’t want to feel forever. 

She knew moving on with life was where she belonged

She knew that at the right time, in the right place, someone special would come along. 

And by now you’re thinking, damn, this is a lot of work to put in. 

And that’s okay too. 

If you think that, then she’s not for you. 

But if you’re not thinking that... boy do you have a surprise in store for you. 

Take the time, break down her wall. 

Talk to her guard, soften it up. 

Because believe me, when she shows you she wants and needs you, the love you will receive will be unmatched to any you’ve ever seen. 

So by now you’re asking yourself, how do I love the independent woman....

You saddle the hell up. That’s what you do. 

You put your spurs on and hold on for the wild ride. 

Because it won’t be easy. 

She will question you. Remember she’s been hurt

She will try to walk away. Go after her. 

She will act like she’s not phased by you. She truly is. 

But then, she will talk to you about what hurt her. 

LISTEN! 

She might even cry. 

WIPE HER TEARS!

But then, when you least expect it, she will start to trust. 

She will be so soft. 

She will even be gentle. 

She will snuggle into your side and let out that big “I’m home” type of sigh. 

She will laugh with you. 

She will talk to you for hours. 

She will be so comfortable around you, it’ll feel like you’ve known her forever. 

And then, now and only here on out, she will include you in her future. 

All those plans she’s made, you’ve become apart of them. 

All those goals she’s written down, you’re in them. 

You are apart of her. 

Now listen when I say this last thing....

Don’t fuck it up. 




Until next time...

Sunday, January 14, 2018

The Only New Year Resolution You Should Have Made

Tomorrow is January 15th.

Halfway through the month of a brand new year. 

Looking back on 2017 it was a tough year for many of us. 

A while back I wrote this blog about people who start talking about doing this or that for the new year. 

I even see lists go up on people’s status’ and it gets rather annoying seeing the people I know taking about this change or that change when in just a few weeks they’re still the same old person they’ve always been, no new goals, no new change.

But I made one resolution and it’s the best one I could’ve ever made.

For 2018 I promised myself that ANYTHING or ANYONE that brought me unhappiness, sadness, ruined my day, put a damper on plans, or simply was a burden to my life... your ass got left in 2017! 

That goes for people, places, jobs, things whatever in the heck has come into my life that simply didn’t make sense, pissed me off, played with my emotions, screwed me over or plain was such a sucky thing.... you’re gone. 

I made a social media cleanse of people I know don’t care to ever speak to me in person but sure do love following my whereabouts. I deleted numbers in my phone and even blocked a name or two. 

Because while I was heartbroken over people, places and things that brought my unhappiness... I got told something one day that hit me really hard. A friend told me to let people go. Let them go! Because God is talking you to places that they no longer belong in your life and when those people start coming back around he wants you to know you’re better off because he’s already shown you who they are! 

So I’m inviting you now that if you haven’t made a new year resolution or if maybe your year hasn’t started off the way you wanted... make the cleanse. Make 2018 only be about people and places that bring you nothing but happiness. 

Because you deserve it. 


Until next time...