The Only New Year Resolution You Should Have Made

Tomorrow is January 15th.

Halfway through the month of a brand new year. 

Looking back on 2017 it was a tough year for many of us. 

A while back I wrote this blog about people who start talking about doing this or that for the new year. 

I even see lists go up on people’s status’ and it gets rather annoying seeing the people I know taking about this change or that change when in just a few weeks they’re still the same old person they’ve always been, no new goals, no new change.

But I made one resolution and it’s the best one I could’ve ever made.

For 2018 I promised myself that ANYTHING or ANYONE that brought me unhappiness, sadness, ruined my day, put a damper on plans, or simply was a burden to my life... your ass got left in 2017! 

That goes for people, places, jobs, things whatever in the heck has come into my life that simply didn’t make sense, pissed me off, played with my emotions, screwed me over or plain was such a sucky thing.... you’re gone. 

I made a social media cleanse of people I know don’t care to ever speak to me in person but sure do love following my whereabouts. I deleted numbers in my phone and even blocked a name or two. 

Because while I was heartbroken over people, places and things that brought my unhappiness... I got told something one day that hit me really hard. A friend told me to let people go. Let them go! Because God is talking you to places that they no longer belong in your life and when those people start coming back around he wants you to know you’re better off because he’s already shown you who they are! 

So I’m inviting you now that if you haven’t made a new year resolution or if maybe your year hasn’t started off the way you wanted... make the cleanse. Make 2018 only be about people and places that bring you nothing but happiness. 

Because you deserve it. 

Until next time...

Don't Start With The New Year, New Me BS!

Well, the posts have already started.

Kill me.

Now don't get me wrong, I think a lot of us can agree 2017 was a tough one.

And a lot of us are ready to see it go.

2018 will be much better.

BUT, that doesn't mean go off and start setting a list of "New Year Resolutions"...

Because the way that I see it, every day is a new day for a new beginning.

So why not start now?

Why not start when the thought crosses your mind that today will be the day you make a change?

You see, 2014 was a very TOUGH year for me. 2015 was better. 2016 again, tough, but so much amazingness happened, and 2017 has been a year of so much growth and just going with the wind.

But looking back I see how much I've grown each year.

That's one thing I love to do the day before my birthday. I like to reflect on how much I have grown since the last birthday.

But, I will say something that I have changed about myself this year is just going with the flow.

Wherever the wind blows me...that's where I'm headed.

Just chasing my dreams and really focusing on what I want.

But I had a friend say something that really hit home.... he said just as long as you're blowing with the wind and not against it.

That speaks volumes because often times I think as things happen instead of just letting them happen we try and stop them or alter their route, rather than just letting it happen.

So I have a New Years Resolution for you....

Don't make any.

Start today.

Go with the flow.

Notice the change that needs to be made, and make it.

Don't wait until tomorrow.

Start now.

And I promise you, your days to come will be better than you've ever imagined them to be.





Until next time....

Trusting Someone

Trust. 

Those 5 letters make me want to vomit sometimes.

How we give them to someone and they break it.

Relationships, friends, family.... so easily broken.

I can remember as a little girl the first time I felt deceived by my best friend. She had told one of the boys we grew up with something I asked her not to. Something that never really happened with us but we were going through changes in our life. We went from being one of the boys to actually liking them. So, naturally things changed, and our lines of what secrets should be kept and shouldn't had also.

That stung a little. 

I can remember when I was 17 and being so in love with this guy I was dating. Everything was perfect, we spent tons of time together, went on dates and riding around in his truck. Until one day he started acting weird, he told me he would be at my house at a certain time and he never showed. I ended up running into him at a local store, a girl sitting in his truck with him.

That one stung a little more.

I've lost trust from friendships and relationships plenty of times...

When someone betrays your trust... let it hurt... then let it go. 

Forgive them. 

Release that negative energy so you don't harbor a root of resentment in your heart.

Sometimes it takes being the bigger person to be compassionate.

Put yourself in their shoes.... what caused them to betray your trust.

What are they going through that doesn't make them see clearly that definition of trust between you two.

Everyone has freedom of choice.

Whether they choose to keep your trust, or throw it away, that's okay.

At the end of the day you know your worth, and you're worth it.

And someone out there will admire that.

They will not break your trust.

Just remember not to give it out too easily.

Not everyone deserves it.

And don't worry about all what you're wanting someone to trust...

We’ve all got baggage.... just have to find the one who’s willing to help us unpack. 

Only you know deep in your heart who deserves your trust.

Until next time....